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"In the middle of it, she comes alive and seems to like what I'm doing, but the next day she's uninterested again. Also, I don't enjoy the beginnings that much because I want to feel wanted by her, not like I have to kick start her engine every time.
I'm not one of these guys who just wants to satisfy himself.
Thus, the Oracle of Delphi's admonition to "know thyself" should really have been to "know your selves." I call these subpersonalities "parts" because, when I first started doing this kind of work, that's how my clients referred to them.
"Part of me wants to stay married and faithful, but another part wants to be free to get laid every night of the week with a different woman," a client might say.
Within each of us is a complex family of subpersonalities, which is why we can have so many contradictory and confusing needs simultaneously, especially around sex.
Now, not only do I not get my sexual needs met, but I feel rejected because most of the time I get shot down when I initiate."Stacey, slim, darkhaired, sits rigidly in her chair. It's like raw sex is the only thing he wants from me.
"I know we don't have sex as much as Mark likes," she says, with an edge in her voice, "but for me to want to make love, I have to feel emotionally connected to him and, to be honest, most of the time, I just don't. It's gotten to the point where any time he touches me I freeze up--I'm afraid to respond even affectionately because if I do, he thinks it's an invitation to sex.""Yeah, in some ways that's the hardest part of it for me," Mark interrupts, "the way she sees me now.
Afterwards, I feel relieved because I know he feels happier and not so angry at me and, also, he'll back off and I won't have to do it for a while."Mark seems not to have heard the many negative qualifiers in Stacey's description of their sex life.
"That's what I don't get," he exclaims with exasperation.