Divorced parents dating again
Sure, I’ve had my share of breakups that were hard to get through. When you go through a divorce a big part of who you were before changes.
No matter how independent you are, to some degree your identity is tied up with being married and being married to her.
It’s not going to be easy, but it’s necessary for you to completely heal and move on.
What you’re about to read is what I’ve learned by talking to hundreds of guys who have been through a divorce plus all of the research I have done over the years.
You don’t even have to love their kids or understand why things between them, the kids, and their former partner may occasionally feel like a an inside joke that you’re not a part of.
The relationship between you and the divorced parent is a common variety configuration these days.
You can’t walk away from your kids and thus you never get to fully walk away from the other parent. Every mean thing you say or do towards them, comes back ten fold, just when you least expect it. That’s the way she’s probably going to be for the rest of our lives together.
You may not think so at this moment, you may be angry, you may be fighting about something, but… Perhaps she needs to be this way when I seem so disconnected or unresponsive. We are stuck in this relationship with one another.
However, when we look at relationships that prosper and relationships that end, there are some common themes.Divorced parents are dealing with a lot of changes.And if you are lucky enough to be in a relationship with one of these kid-attached folks the blessing you can bring to the equation is to stand slightly outside of the odd divorced-family dynamic and maintain a supportive closeness with your partner.The first one, which I rarely reference, I consider a mistake.A mistake I learned a lot from, but a mistake nonetheless.