My boyfriend has a profile on an online dating site
You know it's on your mind, and you know it has probably crossed your new boo's mind, but it certainly hasn't come up yet. I asked nine dating and relationship experts what they would suggest in this particular situation.
"hey" messages from randos on the internet, delete your profile — and ask your new partner to do the same."If things are just fun and games between the two of you, and you know that there's no lasting connection, then there is really no need to remove your profile," relationship coach and psychic medium Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of , tells Bustle.
"Once you decide to be in an exclusive relationship, then pushing the delete button is paramount, if you really want the relationship to last." Don't play games and keep your profile up for longer than necessary — if it's time to hit the delete button, do it without hesitation."You should keep your profile up until you are in a mutually exclusive relationship," Dawn Maslar, a.k.a. "This is important." Until then, you can't be sure that your partner is ready to take the next step — and, like many experts, Maslar says it's best to wait until you're positive that you're continuing down the path together.
Of course, the relationship may not last forever — but if you're going to give it an honest shot, set it up for success by deleting your profile and being sure that your partner has deleted theirs.
If it's time to stop hedging your bets, sit down and have a chat about it."When you decide to be committed, after a reasonable time where you are not seeing others, and it should be an independent decision, with no expectations," zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategist Michele Paiva tells Bustle.
"If you are committed, you will trust that they will delete when it feels right to them." But if you don't want to wait for them to bring it up, do it yourself — just don't rush or force things.